I Am Not Your Manic Pixie Dream Girl

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Screen Shot 2015-03-16 at 4.29.02 PM During my teenage years, I desired to be a manic pixie dream girl.

A manic pixie dream girl (or MPDG) is the female character in television and film who is quirky and makes the male protagonist fall in love with her and his own life. Although I was quirky, I longed to be the type of quirky that would be deemed desirable by men. At the time, it seemed like they were the only female characters that made it acceptable to be quirky and awkward while still holding a strong romantic appeal.

Flash forward a few years, it finally happened: a guy referred to me as his “manic pixie dream girl.”

While part of me should be happy that I finally “made it” and am considered on par with the Maudes and Penny Lanes of the world, I no longer see the appeal of being a MPDG.  Now that…

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Hits and Shits

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Débora Adorno and Other Brazilian Women Combat Sexual Harassment With An Unlikely Weapon 

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A Brazilian woman named Débora Adorno was experiencing street harassment while walking alone in the streets. She felt that calling the harassers out on their gross, perverted behavior was not enough so she came up with a creative, new way to combat harassment: a goofy, toothy face. While this may seem like a ridiculous way to respond to street harassment, her toothy facial expression made her bewildered harasser back off. She urged women to try “the power of the tooth,” causing women to follow suit and create a trending hashtag, #CaretaDoDentinho.  While I’m sure a silly face will not magically stop men from harassing women, it’s good to know that it allowed these women to feel safer and diminish the sexist treatment they receive from men.

Marina Diamandis (Marina and the Diamonds) Releases Song About Rape Culture, “Savages,”…

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We Were Awful to Monica Lewinsky But We’d Like to Think We’d Act Differently Today

you go Monica!
In a state of nation where every girl/woman is blamed for the man having sex with her. where victims of abuse are continually lauded as “sluts” and all background information about rape victims’ previous sexual history are brought up in court trials as justification for how can she have been raped when she’s a “slut” etc justifications. Dershowiz/Epstein/Saville/Heath/Brown/Alisha Owen/Franklin Scandal/Paul Bonnaci/underage sex slave boys tour the Whitehouse during Bush 1.0 (sorry forgot Reagan was in charge then?)

Monica as a victim of this way of looking at women, like it’s all their fault for any sexual abuses or relations (as sexual abuse did not occur for Monica, but abuse by media later) Monica Lewinsky is the perfect person to be standing up for fighting against this “slut” shaming, whether sexual abuse cases, or ill-fated relationships where shaming abuse occurred later!

Go Citizen Lewinsky, your interviews, your tv appearances, your magazine interviews all on “your terms”!

Longreads

Ms. Lewinsky was quickly cast by the media as a “little tart,” as The Wall Street Journal put it. The New York Post nicknamed her the “Portly Pepperpot.” She was described by Maureen Dowd in The New York Times as “ditsy” and “predatory.”

And other women — self-proclaimed feminists — piled on. “My dental hygienist pointed out she had third-stage gum disease,” said Erica Jong. Betty Friedan dismissed her as “some little twerp.”

“It’s a sexual shaming that is far more directed at women than at men,” Gloria Steinem wrote me in an email, noting that in Ms. Lewinsky’s case, she was also targeted by the “ultraright wing.” “I’m grateful to [her],” Ms. Steinem said, “for having the courage to return to the public eye.”

Had the Lewinsky story unfolded today, certainly the digital reality of it would have been worse (or at least more pungent). “They would have dug…

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